I finally listened to my copy of "Radio Archival Oddities Vol II". It's a whopping 5% women! You let me down WFMU! I would have expected something closer to 10%.
I having been reading bits and pieces of a book from the free table: Among Friends by Letty Cottin Pogrebin. There is some good stuff in it. I think she's great in regards to the sex with friends business (mainly because I agree with her). Once you do it, you aren't mere friends anymore, "and no amount of theory or rhetoric will make it so." We need friends and friendships, do we really need more lovers? Sometimes I feel like I am the only person who thinks this!
And then there's the "My husband'wife is my best friend!" line. I dunno. BEst friend has connotations of BFFLYLAS!!! that I can't quite shake. (And nor do I want to). Best friend chatter is girlie talk complaining/gossiping about
1) Men
2) Menstruating
3) Make-up
4) Australian romance novels
(I will be willing to admit that number 4 might just be me.)
Maybe this is related but ooooo I hate the term "fuck buddy," it creeps me out, in a way that "moist" and "napkin" unnerve others. I also hate hate hate babymama and babydaddy. I prefer to say "wife" or "husband"? (Ho ho ho). Bur seriously, to echo the others of The Mommy Myth when did we switch from being mothers to moms?
Posted by rosemary at April 30, 2004 05:40 PMNO! No no no no! Australian romance novels is NOT just you! And stop faking like it is! BFFLYLAS!!!
I forget the anthropological term for babydaddy that they use for other primates. Not to get all sociobiological, but it's something that could work, if you like hyphens.
I have a personal dislike for "partner."
Also, I like the way they point out (in the MOmmy Myth) that even the most extreme 80s yuppie would have found baby wearing too radical. I'm not hating on attachment parenting per se, but no one seems to believe me when I explain my world view that most parenting trends are competition rather than complete and utter altruism.
Posted by: miss sally on May 1, 2004 04:16 PMI belatedly realize that my distastes are probably tied into my WASPy bourgeois uptight chickness (compare to my mother's recent 'hugging?? WTF???" reaction [well, obviously a paraphrase there])
"partner' is deeply unsatisfying. Like, what, you own a business together, or something?
After driving my mom to the dentist (ha ha there's a first!) I read the waiting room copy of Redbook, and laffed non-stop over the celebrity "mom" special.
Posted by: tiger bomb on May 1, 2004 06:26 PM